An Open Letter: Porn Addiction & Men’s Freedom Group

August 1st, 2016 by admin

Dear church,

Of all the many words and emotions that come to me there is one that sticks out when I think about this church. Gratitude!  Church family, I thank you. Without the love and support that was
given to me, I don’t know where I would be today. I was trapped, stuck in a very deep hole, I tried for years to get out on my own but the weight and the worries of this world would keep me in that hole I felt that it was impossible to get out.

Let me explain. For 9 years of my life, I was trapped by the allure of pornography. I knew it wasn’t right, I knew it was bad for me, but day after day I kept slipping back into the sin that I thought defined me. I was too scared and ashamed to tell anyone…so I lied. Before I knew it, I was so wrapped up in my lies and I didn’t know which part of me was real. Was I that loving son, brother, husband, and friend? Or was I the selfish little boy that only had one friend; the computer screen.  I didn’t know who I was and I was listening to the wrong voice.

Then I met my brothers at the men’s freedom group. At first, I treated them just like everyone else and I wasn’t man enough to show my weakness. But I slowly learned that fellowship, accountability, and forgiveness are the path to freedom. I knew the truth was my only way out, and with the help of my sponsor and all the guys I started my path to becoming a free man.

The past 15 months has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. But it has also been the best time of my life. With the help of my brothers I’ve learned what it is to be a godly man and to love what is right. Since I’ve started my path to truth and freedom there have been many bumps on the road but I’ve learned that it is not a journey I take by myself. I’ve had all my great friends in the group, a wonderful family, a completely awesome and forgiving wife, and a church that I know is praying for me. And I am so thankful for your prayers.

So as I conclude this letter there are three types of people that I would like to say something to.

1. First being the countless of people who pray for the men’s freedom group. Most of y’all don’t know a name or even the number of men that are in this group but you are praying for God’s will and love to shine. To those people I say thank you and I am the fruit to your labor.
2. The 2nd group of people I would like to address are either unaware or ignoring this fight for sexual purity that is controlling many men in our culture. To you I say, wake up and fight with me. In this fight, GOD NEEDS YOU, It doesn’t matter who you are or what your background or experience is. God needs you, the church need you, men everywhere need you, and most importantly our children and future generations need you.  I urge you to stand up for what is holy threw your actions and though your prayers.
3. And that 3rd group of people I want to address, you know exactly who you are. I know all too well those thoughts that are going through your head right now. There is a group of men that will confidentially walk beside you to help you become that man that God wants you to be.  It will hurt at first, but the darkness cannot live where the light shines. Take my advice truth is the best way.

I will end this letter with words of Jesus that have become my mantra helping me remember who I am. And it’s helping me slowly get those evil thoughts out of my head that once controlled me.
In John chapter 8, Jesus is speaking about himself but he used a word that grabs my soul:

Jesus said “you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.”

Church family, because of you and your support to have this ministry, I am free. Thank you.

Men’s Freedom Group is a highly confidential 12 Step group that runs year round. Sign up at

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